Yesterday I was looking up sites similar to vampirefreaks.com when I saw an interesting article about a 15- year old girl, Carly, who was murdered after meeting a man who made an alter-ego named Brandon who was supposedly 20. The man however, was 50. The man also had another alter-ego as Brandon's dad Shawn. Eventually Carly fell in love with "Brandon" and they began to have a online relationship. At Carly's 15th birthday party the man came, said that he loved her and would never let anything happen to her, made sexual advances towards her, while saying that Brandon said it was ok that Carly and him had sex. Carly however, rejected his advances, then told her mom what he had done and that she was feeling uncomfortable around him. Carly's mom then told the man to stay away and never talk to her daughter again. This made the man furious and want revenge on Carly by killing her. He then lured Carly into meeting up with him again by telling her she was going to meet up with Brandon and that's when he killed her. After reading the article and investigating more I was flooded with emotions. I realized that the rules I have for myself that I have stood by when it come to talking to strangers online has probably saved me from violent predators such as that man. Even though I follow my rules it doesn't mean I haven't been a victim of predators. I have been a victim of cyber blackmail because I made the mistake of sending provocative pics/ videos to people over the internet and doing sexual things on skype. When I was cooperating they were kinder to me, but as soon as I realized that I didn't want to be "that girl" I stopped. Sopping is what cause them to be start sending me mean messages and threatening to leak my pics, videos and even some pics and videos they took of me while skyping them into the internet. I'm going to share something with you. When it comes to predators and victims the blame gets a little controversial. Some of the blame goes to the victim for letting themselves be vulnerable to the predator because they didn't protect themselves enough and weren't as safe as they needed to be. The rest of the of the blame goes to the predator because they acted on their impulses. While reading the article and other sources I was noticing something I did not care for at all and that was they were blaming vampirefreaks.com as a whole. Don't get me wrong, I know that the site is dark, with dark people, and has predators. That's not what I'm upset about, it's that people need too realize that is you can't blame an entire site for what some the members it has did. It was member's ultimate decision to act upon their delusions and desires. It's one thing for a person to vent, post fantasies, want to be with someone whom they can't, but it's another thing to act upon it. There is always going to be handful of people on any social site you go to who are disturbed are disturbed or predators. When I was younger I used to play on a site called clubpenguin.com and met hostile people predators. If you don't know what clubpenguin is it's for kids and you have a penguin as your avatar, get to play with people/friends, have your on igloo which you can decorate, have little pets called puffs. Basically it's a really awesome site for kids. You can also talk to other people on it and that's how the predators were able to communicate with their victims. My point is that it's not just based on darker things, dating,flirting, chat rooms (though that's where a lot of predators use) it's the people that abuse the trust people give. These people may not know the difference between right and wrong or they don't care as long as they get what they want. I'm glad that I stumbled upon Carly's story. I just wish there were people like her murder for event like this to occur. Her death has opened people eyes to the dangers of predators and that not everyonearewho they say they are online.